Post from lung cancer.net: Two Partners, Two Cancers

Life got a bit more complicated late last summer when my husband Robert was diagnosed with stage II prostate cancer. What is supposed to be a “routine “ cancer with straight-forward treatment options turned out to be more complicated because of Robert’s ulcerative colitis. Even though his UC has been in remission for decades, various doctors threw up red flags about his preferred treatment method and we’ve had to do a fair bit of research and visit doctors in Syracuse and New York City before deciding on a treatment. 

I no longer think that there is such a thing as a “simple” cancer diagnosis.

Robert’s story demonstrates again how worthwhile it is to go to a major cancer center if you can. His cancer was downgraded by the pathologist at Memorial Sloan Kettering, making him eligible for low dose brachytherapy instead of going to daily radiation sessions for weeks and weeks. 

This post I did for lungcancer.net talks about what we have learned while coping with two active cancer diagnoses at the same time.



"We are both patients and both caregivers now. Rather than taking turns, we are simply functioning as a team. There will be days ahead when we are both fatigues and feeling the side effects of our treatments, and we will muddle through those days together."


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  1. knittingdragonfliesApril 24, 2018 at 11:19 AM

    Goodness! Prayers out to you both! Keep lifting the glasses to success!
    Take care
    Vicki

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